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Ebook resiliency

Me/Not Me •  Always/Not Always •  Everything/Not Everything: “A  ‘Me,  Always,  Everything’ person automatically,  reflexively believes that he caused the problem (me),  that it is lasting and unchangeable (always), and  that  it  will  undermine  all  aspects  of  his  life  (everything). When problems arise,  a  “Not Me,  Not Always,  Not Everything person  believes  that  other  people  or  circumstances  caused  the  problem (not  me),  that  it  is  fleeting  and  changeable  (not  always),  and  that  it will not affect much of his life (not everything).” For obvious reasons,  studies have shown that those with a  “Not Me,  Not Always,  Not Everything”  explanatory style are the most optimistic,  while those with a  “Me,  Always,  Everything”  explanatory style are prone to pessimism and depression.  Once MAE’s fail at something,  they are susceptible to experiencing  “learned helplessness”  for a long time and across many areas of their life. T he  effect  of  your  explanatory  style  not  just  on  your  resiliency  but  on your whole life cannot be overstated. Those with a pessimistic, “Me, Always, Everything”  explanatory style are more prone to depression,  anxiety,  low self-esteem,  and paralyzing inertia in the face of setbacks.  Those with an optimistic,  Not Me,  Not Always,  Not Everything style,  on the other hand, experience improved health and happiness and significantly more success in the workplace,  at school,  and on the playing field.